FEARS TO FEAR

  • JUST DO ONCE

    WHAT OTHERS SAY YOU CAN’T DO.
    YOU WILL NEVER PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR LIMITATIONS AGAIN.

My hope is that women are reading this.

You are powerful. You are divine. You are whole.

Three short sentences. Do you feel the truth of them ringing through your every cell? Or do you feel the heavy weight of self-judgement and doubt? Maybe you have a belief that you are not good enough and as a result you are exhausted from the endless pursuit for value and validation outside of yourself.

If you don’t love and honor yourself with every fiber of your being, if you struggle with owning your passion, if you could use more joyful play and simple presence in your life, then it is time for an inner revolution. it’s time to claim your Innate. 

As women, we are trained to seek our wholeness and value and to find love  through others. Fifty years ago, we were told a husband and children would complete us—that was a purpose of life. Today, what makes us worthy might be a  beloved, our career, or even following a chosen spiritual path. We rarely see ourselves as perfect just the way we are. We often base our worth on who loves or  doesn’t love us, if we need to lose that extra five or fifty pounds, and if we can juggle three tasks simultaneously, earn six figures, while keeping a smile on our face.

We have become the fighters, the warriors in skirts, and have forgotten the bliss of being a woman – call yourself a goddess. How does that feel?

Goddess energy is our creative flow: love, pleasure, passion, and  wisdom. When we claim our goddess energy we live in joyful self-acceptance and  self-respect, and we listen to our sacred inner voice. 

I don’t hear any inner voice, Eva. I don’t feel like a goddess. I have a million and one things to think about, and frankly I am not feeling like creating any art. I do want everything that you describe, but I am too busy. 

A story is something we tell ourselves and others to explain why we are the way  we are. Our stories may be of inspiration, or woe and blame. Our stories might fill  us with energy and enthusiasm, or make us feel helpless and victimized or angry  and defensive. The stories we tell that limit our expression and joy are filled with  false beliefs and attachments that really do not serve us. The question to ask is  this: Is my story causing internal and external drama, or is it bringing me peace and  fulfillment? 

I hear your fears. Those inner voices of of yours say “I am not smart enough,” “I am not pretty enough,” “I am not outgoing enough,” – all of the  false ideas that are the bedrock for the limiting belief structure we hold. Many of us have been telling ourselves these stories  for so long we no longer recognize them as stories; we accept them as facts. 

Fear is universal. Does these sound familiar?

You fear that you have no talent.
You fear you will be rejected or criticize or ridiculed or misunderstood.
You fear there is no market for what you do.
You fear your ideas will be stolen, and someone else will do it better than you.
You fear noone will ever take you seriously.
You fear your work is not important.
You fear your dreams are embarrassing.
You fear you don’t have the right kind of discipline.
You fear you are too fat, or too tall, or too short, your your make up is not right.
You fear being one-hit wonder.
You fear you are too young.
You fear you are too old.
You fear because nothing has gone well in your life, and now you think why even bother.

Listen, I don’t have the entire day, so I stop with listing all the possible fears.

LETS GET YOU READY TO BE YOUR BEAUTIFUL, POWERFUL SELF! 

In the modern story of the heroine Warrior Goddess, a single woman ventures out to find herself, combat fear and doubt, reclaim her power and vibrancy, and demonstrate her strength of compassion and fierce love. 

If you are to fear any fears, have the 5 fears suggested by Clarissa Pinkola Estes in her poem

5 FEARS TO FEAR AND THEN, NO MORE

by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Going over and over one’s fears
is empty
and emptying.

There’s something greater that sustains.
We call it Esperanza… Hope.
We call it Querer es podar, Desire is power.
Hope and desire are power.
Fear—ha!
Fear—ha!
Ha, hum—fear.
Pstt, pssh, poof.
Consider that most fear
is not fear of failure:
rather, it’s fear to live fully,
in full power.
Choose your petty fears carefully,
because they can grow truly big teeth.
Instead, draw your attention here…

I have several fears
I would like you to have…
Fear these:
Fear not loving
while you have the chance.
Fear becoming bitter.
Fear cynicism.
Fear turning to stone.
Fear living underwhelmed by everything.

When the culture drags you back and forth between being fearful and being a person who gives blessings…

Give blessings.
When the culture drags you back and forth between being fearful and being merciful…

Be merciful.

When the culture drags you back and forth between being fearful and being forgiving…

Be forgiving.

When the culture drags you back and forth between fearing and loving…
When the great “they” say it must be decided, one or the other,
you can either be fearful, or do the other,

be loving…

refuse to do only one.
Choose all of them.

Be fearful, and bless others.
Be fearful, and be merciful.
Be fearful, and forgive.
Be fearful, and do.
Be fearful, and love.
It is by doing…
by doing the blessing,
doing the mercy, doing the forgiveness,
doing the loving, and doing the doing…
that fear is dissipated.

HAVE THE FIVE FEARS AND THEN, GO AND DO THAT ONE THING….